No matter how old we are, losing a loved one is never easy, but for a child, it can be even more difficult due to the complexity of death and the difficulty they have managing and understanding their grief. That’s why, as the adults in their life, it’s our role to help them understand their emotions as best we can, encouraging them to seek comfort in the memories they have of their grandparents.
If you’re wondering how to tell your child about the death of their grandparent, we have highlighted five recommendations below.
How To Tell A Child About The Death Of A Grandparent
It’s always hard to deliver such sad news, especially to a child who may not completely grasp the concept of death and loss. That’s why it’s important to try and prepare a child for the death of a grandparent as best you can.
1. Be Honest And Direct With Your Child
We understand that this may be a difficult conversation to have, but unfortunately, it requires honesty no matter how hard it may be. This can help them to understand what has happened much more clearly, avoiding any confusion.
It’s okay to show your emotions too, as this will set a good example, teaching them that it’s okay to be sad and to share that with the people they trust.
2. Use Simple And Age-Appropriate Language
We recommend tailoring this conversation to suit their age and level of understanding. Using ambiguous phrasing like “in the sky” can be confusing to a child and may cause them to believe their grandparent will come back, which could be more damaging in the long run. It’s best to be sensitive but clear.
3. Encourage Your Child To Ask Questions And Show Their Emotions
It’s important to create a safe space for your child to express their feelings and ask any questions they have. They need to know that it’s better to share their emotions rather than bottle them up, so if they don’t want to talk, encourage them to write down how they are feeling instead.
4. Provide Comfort And Reassurance
Allow your child to grieve in their own way and be accommodating to their needs whilst allowing yourself time to grieve as well. Lead by example and show them that grief is something families can help each other through with compassion and understanding.
5. Create A Memorial For The Grandparent
You can help them to remember their grandparent with a personalised memorial. Remembered Forever has ashes frames available that allow you to store your loved one’s ashes behind a lovely picture, allowing your children to celebrate the life of their grandparents in a tasteful way, while still having the grandparent close, even after death. You can view more of our products for your loved ones here and get in touch for a personalised frame.
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